Trust Me, It Isn’t You
Please permit me to get straight to the point. If you are married to The Crazy-Making Husband, in his head and heart, your very existence is the problem.
Yes, you read my words correctly. What you do or don’t do, think or don’t think, feel or don’t feel isn’t what activates his crazy-making. It’s the fact that you exist.
Though he may deny it, the core reason is that The Crazy-Making Husband doesn’t want to be a husband. In fact, he doesn’t want to be a grownup. As his wife, your existence ‘demands’ he be both. Take a survey of women whose husbands drive them crazy. I guarantee not one will report that her husband accepts responsibilities willfully, or gracefully — especially relational responsibilities.
Rather than rejoice in the fact you are united by marriage, The Crazy-Making Husband resents it. Deeply. What’s more, his deep-rooted resentment runs as thick as it runs deep. His analysis of his discomfort with you concludes you’re “in his way”. You’re a “drain”. A “drag” on him.
Healthy-minded men do not resort to crazy-making with their wives. Instead, they attempt to peaceably resolve conflict. The healthy-minded husband, in his acts, thoughts, and feelings, has unity, peace and mutuality as primary interpersonal goals. His relationship with his family is his top priority.
Sound impossible? Too pie-in-the-sky? If so, I am sorry to report that you’ve been brainwashed — by none other than your Crazy-Making Husband.
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