Oh-Oh…..
Sunday, September 21st, 2008It’s awfully hard, when you are married, to step back and see your husband for whom he is. What’s more, it’s scary. But if you’ve come to this blog, chances are deep down you know the truth already. You’re married to what I’ve identified as “THE CRAZY-MAKING HUSBAND”.
How can you know for sure? If discerning his mindset is difficult at this point, look at the symptoms manifesting in you: chronic anxiety, confusion, frustration, depression, anger, self-beratement, woundedness, humiliation, sleep difficulties, aches and pains, exhaustion, poor self-esteem, feelings of emptiness, profound insecurity, racing thoughts, negative body-image, pessimism, compulsive eating, drinking, spending or affairs, and declining immunity — to name a few. If you’re in bad shape, your sanity and health are crumbling as we speak.
From my website’s FAQ: “Crazy-making by a husband is any behavior that makes a wife feel her [and her children's] legitimate needs, wishes and dreams are not only invalid, they are foolish and deserving of ridicule, criticism, negation and contempt. This includes her legitimate need for being valued, respected, cherished, genuinely loved and protected. It includes her entitlement to a posture of respectability in her social surroundings. It also includes her and her children’s need to be financially secure.”
If any of this feels familiar, stay tuned. There’s help, ahead.