THE CRAZY-MAKING HUSBAND

To see if you qualify as ‘Crazed Wife’ [the inevitable outcome of prolonged life with THE CRAZY-MAKING HUSBAND], here’s the litmus test: where are you, on these scales?

• calm—————————————————————–hysterical
• balanced———————————————————–off-balance
• clear-thinking———————————————————confused
• secure—————————————————————-insecure
• safe——————————————————————–fearful
• optimistic———————————————————–pessimistic
• confident—————————————————–feeling inadequate
• fulfilled——————————————————————empty
• bonded——————————————————————–lost
• socially invested——————————————–emotionally withdrawn
• high-spirited———————————————————depressed
• content————————————————————–frustrated
• cheery—————————————————————–irritable
• hopeful—————————————————————hopeless
• supported————————————————————–eroded
• rested—————————————————————exhausted
• validated—————————————————————-erased
• respected————————————————————-degraded
• valued———————————————————feeling worthless
• energetic————————————————————–depleted
• proud—————————————————————-ashamed
• happy—————————————————————miserable
• self-loving———————————————————self-loathing
• good immunity————————————————impaired immunity
• generally healthy——————————————————–often ill

The farther to the right you are positioned on these scales, the higher the chance you suffer crazy-making from your dear husband.

In a litmus test, one factor determines the test’s outcome. When it comes to determining whether you qualify as a ‘Crazed Wife’, that factor is none other than your Crazy-Making Husband.

Take a pencil. Put a dot where you reside on each of these scales. Then step back, and take a look. Who do you see?

When I wrote my book, THE CRAZY-MAKING HUSBAND, I could see humor in the follies of a man who drives his wife crazy.

I don’t see humor now.

As I research, write, interview, and observe, and as I continue to identify the seriously negative effects of my own husband’s crazy-making, the more I’m convinced that life with The Crazy-Making Husband endangers not only a woman’s sanity, but her physical health as well.

That’s why I’m now devoting my intellect and energy to reaching out to women who suffer crazy-making by their husbands. My articles, blogs and upcoming books will be soon supplemented by teleseminars and a radio show.

My aim is this: to make ‘The Crazy-Making Husband’ a clinically identifiable entity, acknowledged by therapists, who can then offer appropriate guidance to stricken wives.

Up next: If You Dare, Take The ‘Crazed Wife’ Litmus Test

It’s awfully hard, when you are married, to step back and see your husband for whom he is. What’s more, it’s scary. But if you’ve come to this blog, chances are deep down you know the truth already. You’re married to what I’ve identified as “THE CRAZY-MAKING HUSBAND”.

How can you know for sure?  If discerning his mindset is difficult at this point, look at the symptoms manifesting in you: chronic anxiety, confusion, frustration, depression, anger, self-beratement, woundedness, humiliation, sleep difficulties, aches and pains, exhaustion, poor self-esteem, feelings of emptiness, profound insecurity, racing thoughts, negative body-image, pessimism, compulsive eating, drinking, spending or affairs, and declining immunity — to name a few. If you’re in bad shape, your sanity and health are crumbling as we speak.

From my website’s FAQ: “Crazy-making by a husband is any behavior that makes a wife feel her [and her children's] legitimate needs, wishes and dreams are not only invalid, they are foolish and deserving of ridicule, criticism, negation and contempt. This includes her legitimate need for being valued, respected, cherished, genuinely loved and protected. It includes her entitlement to a posture of respectability in her social surroundings. It also includes her and her children’s need to be financially secure.”

If any of this feels familiar, stay tuned. There’s help, ahead.

Are you slowly, steadily, furiously being driven crazy by your husband? Are memories of your sanity slipping away? If so, don’t despair — I’m Muffy Gibson and I’ve declared war on THE CRAZY-MAKING HUSBAND.  This blog, my blog at ShouldIDivorceHim.com, my book, my articles and my upcoming e-radio show will arm you with essential information, clarify your thinking, and fortify you to stand tall against the arch-enemy of your sanity [and your health] — your Crazy-Making Husband. For starters, please visit me at http://www.thecrazy-makinghusband.com  and check out the FAQ about crazy-making.