THE CRAZY-MAKING HUSBAND

I’m pleased to share with you a wonderful website for women who suffer verbal abuse by their husbands. Penned anonymously, Verbal Abuse Journals and its accompanying Verbal Abuse Marriage Blog clearly and poignantly chronicle the painful experiences of a struggling wife and mother.

As with all abuse, verbal abuse damage is not confined to its target. What is delivered via words works its way through our entire beings, striking down our Spirits. I encourage all wives who suffer crazy-making by their husbands to visit the site, and follow the Verbal Abuse Marriage Blog. Tremendous insight lies therein.

THE CRAZY-MAKING HUSBAND Radio Show is soon to debut at Martha Trowbridge Radio. Lots of fabulous guest experts, fascinating topics, enlightening discussions. All, validation, inspiration and expert advice for wives who suffer crazy-making by their husbands.

The radio site should be operational next week.  Once it is, you’ll be able to see upcoming show titles along with the featured guest experts.

In the meantime, if you’re up for it, please tune in to my recent interview by Peter Anthony Holder, “HOLDER TONIGHT”, on Canadian late-night Talk Radio CJAD Montreal and CFRB Toronto. It’s a fun show. You can access the interview near the bottom of THE CRAZY-MAKING HUSBAND website’s home page.

Thanks! and see you soon at Martha Trowbridge Radio.

If you no longer feel like yourself, and your dear husband qualifies as THE CRAZY-MAKING HUSBAND, get ready for some startling news.

Your husband has wrung the ‘you‘ out of you, with years of relentless brainwashing.

Brainwashing, yes, by emotional and mental browbeating, to render you into the woman he needs you to be. A spiritless, put-up-and-shut-up wife whose primary purpose is to mirror and echo his every whimper and whim.

THE CRAZY-MAKING HUSBAND can’t have you any other way.

Sound chilling? Well, pause a moment and think. Are you permitted to be the woman you were, the day you married him? Does your husband cherish and honor your individuality? Or does he quash and ridicule you, whenever you dare let it show? Are your needs respected and validated? Or are they trivialized, and negated, then dismissed?

I’m brainwashed? you say. How preposterous! Well, ask yourself this: are your opinions and judgment genuinely valued by your husband? Or, is the only time you’re permitted to have a voice, the time when you voice his position?

Why women suffer far more than men from depression* is no mystery. Far too many of us are married to crazy-makers.

That brain-click, that aha! moment, that luminous [yet sickening] realization that the reason you are no longer ‘yourself’ is your husband has brainwashed you out of being you should bring along with it a HUGE sigh of relief. For the wonderful Truth is: despite his best efforts, at core, you are still you!

The proof is here, right here, in front of both our noses. You — the original, authentic you – are at your desk, searching for help, reading this blog.

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* Depression, simply put, is your Spirit crying out for your loving attentions. For more on women and depression, please visit my MARTHA TROWBRIDGE website.

Recently I had a conversation with a dear college friend. Not many moments passed before our conversation turned to men. Though she and I originate in far different families, and have traveled far different life-paths, at heart, we are simpatico.

So as we mourned the dreadful state of many man-woman relationships, it wasn’t surprising that we shared a perspective.

She said it first: At the core of today’s relationship problems is men’s lack of respect for women.

Yes, RESPECT. Good, old-fashioned, wholesome respect. The kind of respect that requires good manners, consideration, kindness.  Respect that shields women from ugliness, and crassness. Respect that considers the welfare of his woman, in each and every decision that he makes.

Respect that motivates a man to behave his very best, to make his woman proud.

When was it in our ‘liberation declaration’ that we decided respect from men was unnecessary?  Why on earth did we assume that being ‘equal’ would efface our need for being well treated? And who, oh who, convinced us that ‘liberated’ women did not cry?

Each time we accept less-than-respectful behavior from our men, we contribute to the reinforcement of his bad behavior. What’s worse, this message is sent to other men. Eventually, society embraces bad male behavior.  Soon, institutions accept it too.

Shame — healthy, moral shame — is another gravely, mistakenly deleted social concept.

If you think I talk like an old-fashioned fool, test my hypothesis.  Ask any woman married to The Crazy-Making Husband: “Does your husband respect you?” “Does he feel ashamed when he behaves badly?” She may be embarrassed by your questions, but give her a moment. I promise she’ll be glad you asked.